Use Me

I just finished negotiating a photoshoot where I will be used as human furniture. I met my co-model on instagram through their friend who I met in a facebook group for TFP photography. The initial contact was me asking them what their relationship to kink and bdsm was, to which they replied, "I used to be a Domme!". I was immediately exited, as Femdom and the world of the Dominatrix have a special place in my journey. We began chatting about boundaries, interests, and ideas, and soon landed on the mutual interest of the human furniture concept. Personally, I have only ever USED human furniture, but have never been in that position of service, myself.

One thing that has been a consistent theme in my pursuit of this body of work, has been me engaging in kinks that I don't necessarily have, or participating on the opposite side of the kinks I enjoy. During our first virtual meeting, my co-model expressed her excitement and desire for being the dominant energy in our creations. I felt compelled to advocate for myself having some kind of expression of control, but decided not to. I saw the light in her eyes and the pitch in her voice that yearned for this opportunity to be back in her fullness. She told me how much femdom had brought her personal agency and confidence, and how much she has been trying to bring those themes back into her world after being away from it for a while. I could not imagine letting my ego get in the way of that.

Kink has taught me the value of sacrifice, and the opportunities for growth that come from being of service to others. I was internally resistant, but ultimately happy to concede any desires for dominance on camera that I had initially held. This work isn't about me. This work is about showcasing the beauty of intimacy in all its forms. This work is about growth through discomfort, and elevated perspectives through experience. I could not pass up the opportunity being held in front of me to widen my perspective by being on the receiving end of this exchange.

This will be, yet another, first for me, and I cannot wait to see how it turns out.